Did you ever see that episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, where he returns from his business trip and leaves his suitcase on the stairs?? Ray doesn't think he should have to take care of it - she's the one who takes care of the house. Debra doesn't think it should be her responsibility because - hey - it's HIS suitcase, he's capable of taking it upstairs and emptying it.
Well, I'm in a similar battle. Except my battle is with dirty clothes on the bathroom floor.
Sir Works a Lot has been working on our basement, he's got come incredibly dirty clothes when he's drywalling. 2 weeks ago, I decided to conduct a little experiment...to see how long he'd let the clothes pile up. As of now - more than 2 weeks after the experiment began, there are 4 days of basement work clothes still on that floor. (Maybe that's why he hasn't worked on the basement in over a week).
I really don't think that it's in my job description as a SAHM to pick up his clothes off the bathroom floor after he showers. (Is it?!) I knew the war had been waged and it had turned into a battle of wills. So I broached the topic yesterday....
Me: Could you just concede already and pick up your clothes on the bathroom floor? Because if not, they will still be there waiting for you when you get back from your trip on Tuesday.
Him: I have a full-time job.
(WTF?!)
I really don't remember what I said after that...but I do remember what I was thinking... it was along the lines of FU%K THAT!
Ok, so I know I'm the SAHM here, and YES I pick up after my kids, clean the house, cook the meals - and admittedly I'm a shitty housekeeper. I can be lazy and often lack motivation to do little more than wake up in the morning and sometimes even that is a stretch goal for the day.
BUT it SHOULD NOT be my responsibility to pick up his nasty ass 2 week old clothes from the bathroom floor.
It shouldn't even get to a 2 week point...you take a shower...you put your clothes in the laundry basket (or in our case the laundry pile). Is it that freaking hard?!
Please someone tell me if I'm in the wrong here...if you are convincing enough - I might go pick up the clothes, right now.
2 comments:
I had a similar situation a few years ago. I moved the laundry hamper and my husband kept putting the clothes where the hamper used to be. He REFUSED to move them. Finally after a few weeks, I gave in. It was really me who got screwed because then I had to was weeks worth of clothes at once. After a while, he finally started moving them though! Who knows why. No advice, but I feel for you!
Alexis
Ouch- does he resent that you are staying home? maybe you guys should talk about expectations or something. His comment about having a full-time job would have crushed me. But my husband would have been pissed if I had waited two weeks to pick up his stuff- he would have preferred that I just ask him to do it. I am sorry about this.
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